What gives you permission to be your authentic self? Spotlight:Transparency + love. A conversation with Jessica Cabrera

Today we are honored to have Jessica Cabrera, Creator of The Day in the Life of You, who is also blogging + exploring love + transparency in her writing, sharing her experience + insights - taken from actual conversations on facebook messages.

The intention: to share + create powerful conversation with others on what it is to be totally yourself: what makes the most difference in making this happen in your life, so we can share experiences + evolve, not only through the ideas we share, but also through the process of sharing itself.

Feel free to jump in on this in the comments below or on facebook, or on your blog: in any way you are moved to + be a part of this experience. This conversation is open to everyone. Its empowering to interact in this way: this is the main reason I created this site, so we all have a playground to explore whats possible. 

The question: What gives you the most permission to be your most authentic self + What is it about this that has made the most difference?

Jessica: What gives me the most permission to be myself, to be naturally transparent, is being in my element. My element consists of feeling confident, having a sense of calmness and being happy/positive. I think this becomes easier as you get older. You are exposed to many different life experiences.

This past year I feel that I have been my true self to the core. Meaning that I did not hold back emotionally, physically and spiritually. I laid it all out into the universe. My communication was more than just verbal. I was not worried about what others perception would be. Take me as I am and vice versa. This brings me to my next point: natural transparency versus inauthentic self.

"Being naturally transparent means that you are not hiding behind a wall. You are front and center. Whereas the inauthentic self consists of being concerned with perception, expectations and not being clear about intentions."

What is it really that brings us to these stages? Is it sole comfort? Life experiences? High expectations?
I feel that we often do not discuss these personal reflections on ourselves. Why? Do we not have the time? Are we in denial?

"It is okay to admit that you are holding back. It is okay to realize that you can be clearer. Working on the soul and connecting with yourself is what makes the difference. You are investing in your own personal body of work."

Premakarini: I love that you mention investing in yourself + your body of work: so true. One of my major breakthroughs this year has been creating this blog + my books - all  possible because I was willing to invest in myself. I think that we get caught up in life + we don't realize the importance + impact this intention can make. And, it is so okay not to know what this is, and to be willing to make mistakes. Giving myself the permission, trusting myself + my intuitive skills has been quite the adventure. My life quality has never been higher.

It's powerful that you ask why we are not personally reflecting on this more. For me I have realized this year that the only real success in life is being yourself 100%, no matter what this means, that this is the most important contribution + difference you can make and having explored this more consciously in the past year I realize from my experience with living transparently + intuitively that it really is a moment to moment adventure of spontaneous, love-based living: giving yourself + owning the basic freedom or permission to explore what this is for you. This is what has given my life a whole new level of meaning and has made so much difference in both my personal + professional life, and in the lives of those I have had the privilege of working with.

Like you, also, I have pushed through that wall of worrying what others think + doing it anyway, if even at times it felt more like making myself follow through simply because I caught myself trying to hold back. I have immense respect for others doing the same: it can be truly challenging, but its such an accelerated way to live at new levels and so worth it.

Jessica: I think it comes down to the notion of what kind of life do you envision for yourself.

Premakarini: Absolutely. Which makes me have to ask you: What is your biggest dream?

Jessica: I have to think about this. Great question.

Premakarini: Next conversation? lol. Thank you so much, Jessie!  Awesome insights + teaching...wow. Conversations like these are powerful.

Now: we want to hear from YOU: Thanks for being here + sharing in this. Please share your experience: share what makes the most difference in your life. Your voice adds so much. Let's empower each other to make the difference we are here to make.

See you tues @2 CT

love,

Premakarini xo

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8 Responses to What gives you permission to be your authentic self? Spotlight:Transparency + love. A conversation with Jessica Cabrera

  1. Otiti says:

    Ahh, where do I begin? Authenticity. Permission. REAL expression. They’re often whittled down or wholly absent from our lives because we’re so attuned to the cues in our external environment: “Maybe I should dress this way so these people will accept me. I should probably talk like this so I can belong to that (cool) circle. I wonder if they’ll like me more if I act just like them?” It’s all such a waste of time!
    The courage to stand apart, to follow your own voice, to BE YOUR OWN person, is something we all need to grab in great big fistfuls. No one’s going to give us their blessing to be our true selves. We have to do it for ourselves, for us. Because it’s liberating. Because we need to. Because we have the right to dare and the light to shine brighter than the stars in the sky and the fire to burn baby burn.

  2. Jessie Jess says:

    Otiti thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! Real expression can be a constant struggle for individuals. We hope we can shed some light on this and get the conversation started. Your thoughts are very inspiring!

  3. Otiti says:

    Oh, I just realised I forgot to share what gives me permission to be myself! Writing my truth. Living it. Having a safe space to bare my heart’s expression with the people I love and trust. Matching my behaviour to my intuition. Dancing in the flow of my core even if I’m the only one hearing the music, LOL.

  4. Otiti says:

    Oh wow, thank you! You inspired me too. I believe inspiration begets inspiration, LOL. Premakarini and I were wondering how to get more voices to open up and share their experiences on here, so I’m just doing what I can to encourage everyone out there. 🙂

  5. Premakarini says:

    Thank you so much for being a part of this, Otiti! Isn’t it powerful to do this?! And fun! I so appreciate all that you add, always! xo

  6. Premakarini says:

    I know that for me living my passions: giving myself permission to do only what I adore, has totally changed the game, too. Thanks for mentioning this: powerful!

  7. Premakarini says:

    Authentic expression:I wonder what makes it hardest? Social pressure to fit in or is it a simple lack of awareness of what is possible? Always trying to figure this out so I can share more helpful ideas + information.

  8. Premakarini says:

    SO SO true! well said! AMEN!! thank you for saying: “It takes courage to stand apart, to follow your own voice, to be your own person” I think just saying these words empowers. And you are so right in saying that we are looking for external cues instead of taking the time to explore who we WANT to be more than anything – or anyone – else. I think that the moment we REALIZE this, everything changes.
    Otiti! Thank you so!

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8 Responses to What gives you permission to be your authentic self? Spotlight:Transparency + love. A conversation with Jessica Cabrera

  1. Otiti says:

    Ahh, where do I begin? Authenticity. Permission. REAL expression. They’re often whittled down or wholly absent from our lives because we’re so attuned to the cues in our external environment: “Maybe I should dress this way so these people will accept me. I should probably talk like this so I can belong to that (cool) circle. I wonder if they’ll like me more if I act just like them?” It’s all such a waste of time!
    The courage to stand apart, to follow your own voice, to BE YOUR OWN person, is something we all need to grab in great big fistfuls. No one’s going to give us their blessing to be our true selves. We have to do it for ourselves, for us. Because it’s liberating. Because we need to. Because we have the right to dare and the light to shine brighter than the stars in the sky and the fire to burn baby burn.

  2. Jessie Jess says:

    Otiti thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! Real expression can be a constant struggle for individuals. We hope we can shed some light on this and get the conversation started. Your thoughts are very inspiring!

  3. Otiti says:

    Oh, I just realised I forgot to share what gives me permission to be myself! Writing my truth. Living it. Having a safe space to bare my heart’s expression with the people I love and trust. Matching my behaviour to my intuition. Dancing in the flow of my core even if I’m the only one hearing the music, LOL.

  4. Otiti says:

    Oh wow, thank you! You inspired me too. I believe inspiration begets inspiration, LOL. Premakarini and I were wondering how to get more voices to open up and share their experiences on here, so I’m just doing what I can to encourage everyone out there. 🙂

  5. Premakarini says:

    Thank you so much for being a part of this, Otiti! Isn’t it powerful to do this?! And fun! I so appreciate all that you add, always! xo

  6. Premakarini says:

    I know that for me living my passions: giving myself permission to do only what I adore, has totally changed the game, too. Thanks for mentioning this: powerful!

  7. Premakarini says:

    Authentic expression:I wonder what makes it hardest? Social pressure to fit in or is it a simple lack of awareness of what is possible? Always trying to figure this out so I can share more helpful ideas + information.

  8. Premakarini says:

    SO SO true! well said! AMEN!! thank you for saying: “It takes courage to stand apart, to follow your own voice, to be your own person” I think just saying these words empowers. And you are so right in saying that we are looking for external cues instead of taking the time to explore who we WANT to be more than anything – or anyone – else. I think that the moment we REALIZE this, everything changes.
    Otiti! Thank you so!