balancing act: the pursuit of balance OR authentic ease + fun: your choice

I am just going to say it.

You don't really want balance. What you really want is ease. You want life to be easier, yet you seek balance so intently you lose the actual state of feeling of authentic ease which the idea of balance initially lured you with.

We think we need balance for things to feel easy. We continue to think that something is missing, or something is off and if we can just attain {you get to fill this in inside your head} everything will be perfect.

Translated version: when we achieve perfect balance in our world.

Isn’t it interesting that this is something we pursue relentlessly, and often unconsciously, and yet the actual thing we are really after continues to allude us:

Ease.

It’s more a question of ease.

And there’s something else to take into the equation:

It’s a question of what drives you. You are more inspired by your passions rather than ideals. You are driven by what intrigues you, what has the most importance in your life. You are not always aware of what these are at times, yet they influence you, whether you are conscious of them or not.

The real breakthroughs come when you realize this.

"What you are really after is the feeling that you can totally relax into being yourself, that you can be this authentic. When you live from this, all you experience IS ease."

Authenticity IS ease. When you are totally being yourself you are naturally in tune with what is happening around you. This is how you know. Things get harder the moment you step out of being yourself. 

Be clear on what you are actually moved by. What really pulls on you. It’s not always what you think.

Fun and easy.

You are more motivated by the pursuit of fun and happiness than you are ever going to admit. So admit it and commit to it. Follow what truly engages and inspires you.

 

 

"What makes your heart flutter? Do only that.

There is not enough time for anything else."

Richard P. Feynman

 

Comfort and ease. Feeling that you are in tune with everything is what we think balance can be. This is exactly what we imagine we gain when that perfect state of balance in our lives is finally achieved. The truth is pursuing the idea of needing everything to be in balance creates more stress and anxiety than anything else.

Think about it. When was the last time you experienced the most stress or fear? What were you attempting to accomplish other than a better quality of life, or some new level of comfort or ease?

The irony is completely lost on us. Still we persist.

There are other ideas: live more in and through every moment. Embrace risk and spontaneity as a solution. Let life open up new avenues for you. Trust.

Life has its own balance, and if we let it and trust its natural rhythms we discover new ways to relate, new ventures to explore and its okay if our life changes in its proportions. We intuitively move through the moment and accomplish exactly what we need, when we need to.

 

What I dream of is an art of balance.

Henri Matisse

 

It’s okay if the dishes don’t get done. Or if you end up buying new underwear because it’s quicker than doing laundry when you are launching your latest + greatest. Relationships won’t dissolve automatically just because you are working another 70 hr week getting your book or project to meet its deadline. At times our lives resemble anything but balance, yet this is a form of balance if we can stay open + hang easy with it.

When you first fall head over heels in love, everything falls by the wayside in those euphoric early days and yet life restores itself around it as the relationship deepens and integrates itself into the larger fabric of your world.  Allow the same to happen with all your realities, all your dreams.

What threatens you the most is usually what allows you to grow exponentially. Passions threaten. They create disorder. Imbalance. This is why you cling to the idea of order and lose your passion in the process. This is why you lose your edge.

Allow your passions to create some imbalance while they take over for a while. Everything settles soon enough. What’s important is you experience what you are here to do, that you experience your passions + the new level of life they are here to bring you to.

And when you next find yourself thinking that you crave balance see it as a sign you simply want more harmony and ease and relax into this.

What ideas do you have right now: I'm always curious to know how this got you thinking. Share your insights below. I would love to know what this article inspires for you.

Much love,

Premakarini xo

 

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  1. Nikki says:

    The analogy of falling in love is perfect for passion. I wonder about another aspect of falling in love. When life moves back into the daily routine, love can also show you where you are out of balance. When the initial honeymoon ends and your lives happen wherever there is unhealthy tendencies in both of you is when you start to see that as well. I wonder if the same is with passions. Using passion’s and dream’s take over to, once the dust settles, create changes in your life as you realize what is holding you back from that harmony. Just like in the relationship, you can self destruct and sabotage relationships and dreams by refusing to look at your issues and deal with them. I’m rambling but this post has definitely got me thinking in a lot of different directions.

  2. Premakarini says:

    Nikki, what I have found in my experience is that when we commit to following our passions initially there is a lot of excitement and euphoria but then through the amplifying effect you get to see whats not working also in your life, as you have observed in your experience. Great insight. Thank you for adding this, its important to know. Our passions definitely give us an opportunity to see our lives a little more clearly. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights! Powerful stuff! Its great to have you here. Keep me posted on what else this brings.

  3. Adonica says:

    Very true! Makes a change to see someone spell it out like that. 🙂

  4. Denisha says:

    Hats off to whoever wrote this up and posted it.

  5. Simon Sutton says:

    I have been expressing and exploring transparent communication for the past several years and I just want to honour you and acknowledge your magnificence. You express yourself from the essence of truth, (transparency) and the essence of love (heart). This is a wonderful sharing of your soul and a beautiful reminder to be here now and enjoy every single droplet of life with no judgement just celebration and appreciation. Thank you for being you, thank you for giving me the mirror to see myself. I love you xx

  6. Premakarini says:

    Thank you for seeing the world with so much love, and vision. What you are doing is so powerful in terms of transparent communication, love + connection, I am just so happy that you are in my world. Lovelove! xo love you too!
    Prema

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6 Responses to balancing act: the pursuit of balance OR authentic ease + fun: your choice

  1. Nikki says:

    The analogy of falling in love is perfect for passion. I wonder about another aspect of falling in love. When life moves back into the daily routine, love can also show you where you are out of balance. When the initial honeymoon ends and your lives happen wherever there is unhealthy tendencies in both of you is when you start to see that as well. I wonder if the same is with passions. Using passion’s and dream’s take over to, once the dust settles, create changes in your life as you realize what is holding you back from that harmony. Just like in the relationship, you can self destruct and sabotage relationships and dreams by refusing to look at your issues and deal with them. I’m rambling but this post has definitely got me thinking in a lot of different directions.

  2. Premakarini says:

    Nikki, what I have found in my experience is that when we commit to following our passions initially there is a lot of excitement and euphoria but then through the amplifying effect you get to see whats not working also in your life, as you have observed in your experience. Great insight. Thank you for adding this, its important to know. Our passions definitely give us an opportunity to see our lives a little more clearly. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights! Powerful stuff! Its great to have you here. Keep me posted on what else this brings.

  3. Adonica says:

    Very true! Makes a change to see someone spell it out like that. 🙂

  4. Denisha says:

    Hats off to whoever wrote this up and posted it.

  5. Simon Sutton says:

    I have been expressing and exploring transparent communication for the past several years and I just want to honour you and acknowledge your magnificence. You express yourself from the essence of truth, (transparency) and the essence of love (heart). This is a wonderful sharing of your soul and a beautiful reminder to be here now and enjoy every single droplet of life with no judgement just celebration and appreciation. Thank you for being you, thank you for giving me the mirror to see myself. I love you xx

  6. Premakarini says:

    Thank you for seeing the world with so much love, and vision. What you are doing is so powerful in terms of transparent communication, love + connection, I am just so happy that you are in my world. Lovelove! xo love you too!
    Prema